There’s a perception online that a lot of lesbians are bipolar. Let’s get one thing straight (I can never resist saying that), statistically, it doesn’t hold up, so the vitriol about it is unjust and lazy.
What I think is accurate though, is that there are a lot of bipolar lesbians online. Btw that’s a lazy assumption based on two subjects I’m always on the lookout for anyway. But it’s my tribe, right? One of many I belong to. So I give a shit.
Google bipolar lesbian dating. I’ll wait.
I know, right?
It’s fucking depressing. Minus the fucking.
If, on the other hand, you google bipolar dating (nah, I’m not waiting, you can do that one on your own time), you will come away with a bleak, but realistic picture and some seriously good advice about how to actually have a relationship that works. The odds aren’t great, but you don’t get the OMG NO SCARY MAD DRUNK PSYCHO LESBIAN factor.
Even Card Carrying Lesbian, who is a very balanced writer on the subject of bipolar etc, only comes up in the initial google results with a piece she wrote in response to an omg no scary mad lesbian scenario. Us dykes are forever ripe for sensationalism, it seems. And I don’t even know who to bellow at about it. (No helpful results for is google heterosexual?)
I’ve been single in the past due to my ahem chaos. And I have been single for other reasons too. Normal reasons, whatever they are. I am single right now and actually, I don’t think my bipolar is to blame.
Would I date me? On paper, no. Who the hell wants someone who seduces you with helium happiness, then introduces you to the most morose person on earth? Would I date a correctly medicated me? I don’t know. That would be remission and recurrence is almost guaranteed.
But sometimes even relationships with truly shitty odds work out anyway. Emphasis on the word work there, methinks.
Let me clarify though, this time all the me in the post is hypothetical; I am not looking for a relationship. Lots of lesbians are though and the publicity is not good for those of us battling bipolar.
Lesbians can be good people and quite frequently are. Ditto bipolar people. Quod erat demonstrandum all I am saying is give bipolar lesbians a chance.
(Dora the Explorer is irrelevant, it just made me laugh. A google image search of bipolar lesbian is just disturbing btw.)
I am a bipolar dyke.